Carl Brader,
If you have not yet been to a Vietnam Memorial I strongley recommend it. It took me many years and my children to get me to THE WALL in Washington DC. Distance wise its about 25 miles from my home and I have lived here for 40 years. It is one of the best things I have ever done for myself. If you are nervous about going take a friend along and plenty of Kleenex (you will need it) also be prepared with Names Panel #'s and Line #'s. Take your time and look at it from a distance walk arround it and when you are ready DO IT. You will not be sorry. One note of caution It is like a Magnet once you go you can't stop but it gets easier each time. It has given me my opportunity to make Peace with Vietnam and my brothers.
Tom Gator 851