Rex,
Good to see you post if only for help. That is what we are here for. On this site you can say anything you want and the people who read it have been there and understand.
As for Wilcox the best I can do is his full name James M Wilcox shown as a SP 4 on the 67 roster.
Don't be such a stranger you don't have to talk about anything you are not comfortable with.
Tom Gator 851.