Stephanie, if there is a chance that Earl would be willing to talk to some of us maybe we could help. I am currently taking care of two vets with cancer and one has taken the angry outlook, the other has decided to make the best of the time he has left. Needless to say the latter is the easiest to be around. The V.A. has councelors to help Earl with his emotional stress and we are all here to give what assistance we can. Please try to get Earl on this site so we can offer what we can. In the end it is Earl that has to decide what emotions serve him best but maybe we can help by listening to and empathizing with his emotions. As Mark said, we are here for you and for your Dad. Tom